relationship and marriage

During one of my random conversations with a married woman, I was appalled with the way she talked about her husband with so much disdain. She divulged a lot of information ranging from how she contributed more money to the running of the home while her husband contributed less because of his low income job to how he performed on their marital bed and so on. She called him all sorts of name. I began to imagine; I know myself very well but what if this woman has revealed these pieces of information and even more to someone else?

Many times, most women fail to understand that the way they portray their husbands in front of friends or family is the same way they’ll see him and address him. Woman, that man needs respect. The Bible says in proverbs 14:1 that “homes are made by the wisdom of women but are destroyed by foolishness.” It is foolishness to reveal your husband’s weaknesses to a third party. When you do that, you have begun the process of wrecking your home. Ephesians 5:22 says “wives, submit to your husband as to the Lord. For a husband has authority over his wife… And so wives must submit completely to their husbands as the church submits itself to Christ.” Verse 33 of that same chapter says that every woman MUST respect her husband. God did not make it optional, the word “must” was used.

Wives, respect that man. Christ placed him as a head over you and you ought to submit to him as you submit to the Lord. For instance, if the Lord gives you an instruction, you carry it out but in our modern world now husbands cannot even give instructions again because of the kind of wives they live with. In the book of Esther 1, the king had a royal banquet and wanted to showcase his beautiful wife. He gave an instruction for her to be brought to the banquet and she refused thereby disobeying the king’s instruction in front of all his guests, officials. The king’s ego was punctured, he felt disrespected and it caused her to lose her crown. Remember wives that if you treat this man as a king, he’ll in turn treat you as a queen. Do not go around destroying his reputation; protect his image. If you both have issues, talk to each other in love, pray, seek counselling from a certified and trusted marriage counsellor. May God give wives the wisdom to honour their husbands. God bless you!

Your relationship and marriage coach,

Chiamaka Opara