relationship and marriage

Sometime ago, I just decided to take a stroll to a friend’s house one evening. We were outside gisting and trying to prepare something to eat. Suddenly, we heard one of her neighbours shouting. I tried to make a move to know what’s happening but I noticed that she wasn’t even concerned. I then asked why she didn’t even bother to make a move and she said that’s what they go through each day. The husband beats his wife at will almost everyday. I just couldn’t believe my ears, my spirit was troubled.

Now, your marriage is not a boxing ring and that woman is not your punching bag. Many times, some ladies see this red flag during their dating/courting stage but they choose to ignore it. The man beats her, shouts at her or may not even want her to voice out her opinion. In most cases, the lady thinks that this man will change when they get married but it is not so. If he cannot truly change when they aren’t married, is it when they’re married that he’ll change? Marriage will only amplify that character. It’s the work of the Holy Spirit to change our minds completely not our work. Most abuses that couples go through in their marital homes were very obvious during the courting stage but they chose to ignore it and cover up their partner’s actions.

Husbands, the Bible says in proverbs 18:22 “he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord” not he that finds a punching bag. You cannot find favor and your prayers will be hindered if you don’t respect that woman. The Bible says in 1peter 3:7 “husbands, be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (NIV).

Christ said husbands should love their wives as they love their own bodies. You don’t punch your bodies and give yourself bruises both physically, mentally and otherwise so why do it to your wife? May we not fail in marriage in Jesus name, amen.

Your relationship and marriage coach,

Chiamaka Opara